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  • in reply to: Confused and Frustrated #168742
    Sarah
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    Well it’s been over a week of no contact, and I’m still pretty upset over this entire situation. Obviously, I know that if he wanted to continue to see me, he would have contacted me by now, but it’s hard to let go. I’m not sure why – We were never even in a serious relationship. I keep wanting to text him about little inside jokes or something that we have in common (like a book I just read that he’d love), but I’m sure that I’d just be annoying him.

    I’m not sure if I have a question to ask, just venting.

    in reply to: Confused and Frustrated #167950
    Sarah
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    Thanks again, Anita. It makes sense that he’s not assertive, because it seems as though he’s not interested in seeing me again, but won’t say that outright. He’ll respond to me days later with some lame excuse, but doesn’t acknowledge my actual text or questions. (For example, me: What’s your weekend look like?… Then he replies 2 days later: Hey sorry been a crazy week at work…) I’m going to move on and assume that this is over (again).

     

    in reply to: Confused and Frustrated #167474
    Sarah
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    I just also want to add that before he broke things off, I felt as though we were very close to becoming “official.” He had introduced me to his friends and his sisters, we were spending weeknights together and were planning on going on a (weekend) trip together this summer. He talked bout how much he liked me and how I was “exactly what he was looking for.” I guess that’s why its so hard for me to act causal. I know we can’t realistically just pick things up where they left off, but it’s hard for me to start from scratch too..

    in reply to: Confused and Frustrated #167462
    Sarah
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    Thank you both for your replies!

    Jason – I tend to agree that he is not 100% sold, which really bums me out. However, for our first two dates this time around, he did make the plans and do the pursuing. Now I’m just confused because – Whats the point of that?! After he initially ended things, I completely left him alone and assumed that I would never hear from him. But he reached out to me and asked to see me. I guess I just wish he could make up his mind. Ugh.

    Anita – He never seemed to do anything like this before. When we initially started dating, he was always responsive and would initiate most of the plans. I don’t see him as very unassertive either. He ended things very clearly, and so I just assumed that he would do the same if he lost interest. I did apologize after one particularly bad night, but that was right before he “broke up” with me. Basically, I said that I was sorry about how I acted (I tried to play it off and blamed it on drinking too much) and he said that he prefers to be around more “laid back” people and that he didn’t think this was going to work. He did add that he liked me a lot and was “really unsure” if he was making the right choice, but he could have just been trying to be nice.

    Before we met up again a few weeks ago, I was ready to apologize and explain myself, but we had such a good time that it just didn’t seem like the “right time.” I really can’t explain how out of character I was acting – It was the worst month of my life. I know that I should not have taken it out on him, and I regret it SO much. Should I bring this up if I get another chance, or try to let it go?

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