Wow! I can’t believe I found a story that was posted 10 years ago that absolutely explains what I am feeling! It feels absolutely awful and I haven’t even broken up with him yet. But I know I have to. Just like the original post says, she’s wanted to remain friends with him but she understood she couldn’t. I know that is exactly how I feel now even before the break up. It is so challenging to pull the plug. I love him and a person but I’m just not in love with him. And I don’t want to waste either of our time as I wait and try to love him the way he loves me. I felt it on a deep level when she said he is such a great guy and husband material. She wanted to love him but couldn’t! It does make you feel guilty. It also makes you very worried that you’ll never find a guy as caring and loving as them. however, as we grow as people, we realize, staying and pushing away the feeling you feel deep down would only devastate the relationship in the long run. It’ll definitely hurt more for both parties. I hope the original poster is doing well and found her true love!