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May 16, 2016 at 1:00 pm #104692J WrexhamParticipant
Please don’t judge yourself so harshly. We all make mistakes, and as long as we learn from them they are simply lessons. Your co-worker made the mistake of disrespecting his wife and their marriage, and you made the mistake of being with someone who was not available to you. An error of judgement does not make you a bad person, it makes you human. Have compassion for yourself and try and look at the possible good that can come from this situation; you have learned a valuable, if painful lesson. If your co-worker’s marriage was as much of a fairytale as he likes to paint it, why was he unfaithful? Perhaps the thought of losing everything he already had gave him a renewed appreciation of what he was risking but this is absolutely NO reflection on you; rather, this was his lesson from the experience. Be kind to yourself, reflect on what good you can take from the lesson and move forward in the knowledge that you deserve to be treated with far more respect than your co-worker showed you or his wife.May 13, 2016 at 7:45 pm #104482J WrexhamParticipant
There was never anything wrong with you! Other people’s expectations are THEIR problem, not yours. You look about the same age as my children and I know I have been guilty of saying similar things to them, not because I didn’t think they were awesome just as they were but because I believed it was my job to help them fit in with what society expected. Sometimes as parents we act out of fear that our children will not make the best choices or take the ‘wrong’ path, but as part of my own journey I have come to realize that even as parents we don’t get to make those choices for others. Just keep being you and live YOUR best life. For your own sake try to have compassion and forgiveness for your family but never let anyone make you feel less than the amazing, courageous young man you so obviously are.