I also want to add…..that he is planning on moving here but I feel like I’m the only one bringing this up or making the plans. He is a last minute kind of guy and I like plans. I get my feelings hurt because I take his lack of making plans personal.

Anita,

Thank you so much for replying. I agree with you. I’ve worked hard over the years to grow and separate my views/beliefs from my parents. Not that theirs are wrong but for me they aren’t right. I was raised believing that my purpose here on earth was to serve God, marry, have children and stay home and raise them. To be submissive to my husband. No matter how hard I tried to follow those rules for my life I wasn’t happy. Of course, I know I’m capable of being a loving wife and a great Mom (Not perfect but I try my best). I just couldn’t be who he wanted me to be and I got tired of trying. I want to be who I feel I am and not constantly put on these masks to hide myself. Every time I let him see who I really was I received anger. He had no respect for me and was very controlling.

Last night having my Mom talk to me just put me in a bad head space. I don’t really know how to handle any of my family because they disagree with my decisions. In one sentence they tell me how proud of me they are and how much they love me and the next they put down every decision I make. They tell me how great of a Mom I am then a few days later tell me that I am hurting my children more than I realize. It’s all very confusing.