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  • August 5, 2018 at 8:41 pm #220437
    Sherly
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    Thank you very much, everyone, for all the opinions and precious advice. Means a lot to me to get through this rough patch.
    We are taking some time off and trying to work on our relationship. Hopefully, things will be alright for us soon.

    Thank you very much again!
    Sherly <3

    June 17, 2018 at 7:09 pm #212827
    Sherly
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    Thank you very much for all your comments, suggestions and encouragement. I spoke to my BF about it and he tried to understand the issue from my point of view and agreed to speak to his sister. I hope things will be fine soon.

    Really appreciate all the advises and your precious time.

    Thanks a lot.

    June 14, 2018 at 3:57 am #212417
    Sherly
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    Dear Decima,

    Thank you so much for taking your precious time to be a listener. It is so kind of you and really appreciate your words.

    My SIL is actually 21 years old so I feel like it’s not her age but the personality as you said.  Yes, it creates a lot of doubt in my mind how I am going to deal with it in the future. My boyfriend actually has not been much supportive over this issue. Even after all this drama of his own sister, he has never spoken to her personally and always asks his mother to speak to her and always expects me to forget about what happened.

    I feel like I’m trapped in this situation as I have no one to talk about it. I don’t want to tell my parents because they are the type who will get worked up easily. And since our wedding dates are fixed I dont dare to complain about it because I feel like its too late to make a decision and seems like the only option is to put up with it knowingly our marriage will suffer because of this.

    I will try my best to talk to my boyfriend again.

    Thank you very much again for sharing your thoughts.

     

    June 11, 2018 at 4:32 am #211977
    Sherly
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    My sister-in-law already hates me and has sent me vulgar messages to stop our relationship the day that she found out me and my boyfriend travel together without getting married but I didn’t because he is a really nice guy and we don’t have any conflicts between each other. His parents kind of like me and get along quite well with me. She made a big drama when they came to visit my parents for the first time for lunch even in front of her parents, and my parents were really upset about the situation because it was a very disrespectful behaviour. She was looking at her phone the whole time making faces and never spoke to me or anyone and it was very obvious that she is pissed and upset. And everyone felt so uncomfortable and they even left early right after lunch. She is so spoilt, entitled and bossy and has conservative thinking.

    The problem is my in-laws don’t admit that her behaviour is unacceptable they think she is still young and that’s because she loves her brother. Things are getting tougher as we are planning to get married this December. I am a Buddhist and my Boyfriend is a Catholic. At first, they asked me to convert to a Catholic saying that it is not good to receive the full wedding mass at the Church. And I unwillingly agreed because I simply didn’t want to make an issue. And I agreed to take her as one of my bride’s maids although she has never spoken to me yet. Both I and my boyfriend thought she will be alright after a while but her attitude has never changed. Her parents always defend her and once asked me not to take bridesmaids at all for the weeing because they are not sure if she will get along with my relations during the wedding, but I really want to take my best friends as my maids. I’m really scared to take her because of her attitude, she really hates me and I hate her 100 times more, but I always smile and keep quiet because I don’t want to create an ugly situation.

    How do I go about this? Should I keep quiet and take her as the bridesmaid? Please help me if anyone has a solution or any opinion.

    Thank you so much!

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