Hey SraTB,

Thank you for sharing about yourself.

I’ve undergone similar experiences to what you described. Five years ago I left my full-time job in investment banking. This month I left my full-time job in public service.

Both times, I was at a loss as to what to do with myself after leaving my job, because my job had given me identity and structure in my life. I did not know who I was beyond my job.

Sounds to me from your post that you may be facing some self-doubt and fear of uncertainty. It’s kind of like jumping off a cliff, when we let go of what we have known, we have absolutely no idea what’s going to happen next.

The funny thing is, when we don’t know what’s going to happen next, our life becomes full of possibilities and potential. The known is like death, the unknown is where life happens.

Seems to be you’ll be entering a new phase of your life with more freedom and potential that before. That’s a great thing! But it also comes with a lot of fear.

When I left investment banking, I suddenly went from working 100 hours per week to having nothing to do. I used that time to fulfil a lifelong dream of mine to volunteer in Cambodia, and work with youths in Singapore. Having the space to make decisions about how to spend my time and energy allowed me to choose things that really mattered to me. That’s how I started my journey of becoming a life coach.

At this point, it’s really important for us to listen to our inner guidance and inner voice.

What is that voice telling you? What is it that you really want?

Maybe all you want is a break to heal yourself, to evaluate your life, to integrate lessons you’ve learned in your life. Maybe you need space to rest and forge a new path.

Or perhaps you’ve always had a passion you wanted to pursue and never did, and now’s your chance.

Perhaps the voice is urging you to discover who you are beyond living up to people’s expectations, beyond fulfilling your role at work. Who are you really?

The decision you’ve taken is courageous, and opens a door to many possibilities! May you enjoy your exploration and journey of self-discovery 🙂

Lots of love,

Shuying <3
liveorigo.com

PS – one thing to note before you leave your job. do ensure to leave on good terms with everyone so as not to burn any bridges. Say and express what you want to so that you can complete each of your work relationships and move on =) Before I left, I wrote individualised note cards to each of the people at my work. they really appreciated it! 🙂

Hi El,

Thank you for sharing your personal story. It must take a lot of courage to share yourself on a public forum 🙂

After reading your post, I am hearing that there is a lot of emotional baggage you’re carrying around that requires healing.

Many times, when things happen in our lives, we tend to sweep them under the carpet and never really resolve the issue, especially emotionally. Sounds like you have really been through a lot.

With emotions that require healing, I’ve found that process-oriented psychology helps me a lot. Coaching has also helped me a lot as well.

I hope you start feeling better!

🙂