Dear Alex,

thanks for your advice, ill try to do that. 🙂

Dear Anita,

I have stayed with his parents before and he has told me a fair bit about his family. I know that he has a severely mentally handicapped older sister, and that his dad can be a bit skeptical about women’s intentions since he himself had a bad experience when he was younger, and even once tried to talk him into cheating on me, which he said he refused to do (and i believe him on that one). He also lives in the country, and mentioned once that he would spend months in the house with no one to talk to during the day when he was a young kid, and that it caused him to be very introverted (something that contradicts a lot of his other characteristics i have observed), and has even said that he wouldn’t mind becoming a hermit one day, which also juxtaposes his very socialite lifestyle. His relationship with his parents otherwise is very strong and they are all quite close.

Hi Anita,

well this is where i get a bit confused too. He has a kind heart and was always willing to help me which gave me hope, but this one time a bit less than 2 years ago he had a crisis because he thinks he can’t feel emotions as deeply as everyone else, like he has a limited range or something. He has moments where he’s all in love, would do anything for the relationship, and others where there is just nothing there. its a bit frightening honestly. Also the way he treats his friendships has always concerned me. He has a lot of friends, and loves to see them, but i see no warmth in his relationships with them, like they are tokens or a novelty to be had. There were times i thought he had a lot of emotional intelligence and depth, like when he helped me, and other times he displays almost sociopathic levels of inability to have sympathy and understand other people.