when i was about your age (i am 27 now), i thought of this too. what happen is that i dream of my own dealth and i feel so sad that i need to leave the world i am living in right now. i cried and cried. but after that, i realise it is just my thought. it is not a reality. it is not happening in the present moment. i think the reason i cried is because i have still so much things that i have not done in this world. i wouldn’t want to leave now. i still want to achieve lots of things in my life. but once you realise the thought of dealth is just your own thinking. you can work towards reality. reality is your parent is still alive, you should treasure every moment when you are with them. for yourself, works towards what is your goal in life, a purpose of life. past is just lesson to be learn, future is unknown and is created by our mind of thought and thinking. present is a gift, you are gifted to be alive. i am now double your age, but i still have so much to learn and understand. have some courage to walk your own future, because we don’t know when we will die, we must treasure every moment that we are still alive. hope it helps a tiny little bit, cheers!

communication required both two of you to talk. If he accuses, listen and understand why he did that, if you don’t understand ask again. when one person is angry other person has to be claim and listen. i am sure alot answer you still don’t understand. example, why he doesn’t need anybody emotional support? does that means he don’t have any needs? if he don’t have any needs, why does he say you only care about your needs when he don’t have any needs?

we guys don’t share emotional stuff with girls because we thought sharing makes us weak. the truth we need to share in order to feel. we want to share with people who understand us. try to agree with his answer sometime. repeat what he said in your own words, and see if the messages are pass across correctly.

i am not an expert in communicating too. sometimes i said thing which are not true, intentionally and unintentionally. stay claim, don’t be angry, don’t blame, try to understand. if he shut himself, ask another time.

hope my answer helps.

on side notes, love yourself more. if he doesn’t talk, you can have time to do things you like for yourself. go meet new guys/friends. stay positive =)

love is about accepting each other and loving yourself. you love spending time with yourself but somehow you feel lonely. because human are not meant to live alone. we need love. the image of your love is how much he can suit your character. communicating with him is good, but your objective is to let him know what are your feeling and what you need him to do/change. It is not to understand and listen to him. when he criticizes, you shut yourself to listen and blame him for criticizing. don’t try to change someone, always try to listen and understand. your question “when it’s time to call it quits”: when both stop listening.

please love yourself more. accept who you are before accepting others. you will gain courage after you have done that. you are searching for an answer thats already inside you. leaving her is the same as being rejected by yourself.

Hi, i do have the same issue as you right now. i met this girl in my new working place. i am suppose to take over her duties roles as she was leaving the company. she has 1 month to pass down everything to me before she fly off back to her country. during that month, a lot happen. we talk about things, more than work related. issues like her current relationship. yes, we both have a partner during that time. Mine is going smoothly, but hers is not so well. her relationship has been bad since her ex-bf broke up with her few years back. she can’t find the right guy who can understand her. her current bf was in oversea for study at that time, their relationship hasn’t been doing well even before she know me. For me, i have a relationship that she love me more than i love her. she can’t give me the love i want, but i know she is a really good gf who is so hard to find anymore.

we both, during that time, know how much we love each other. however, we are not fated to be together. this is what happen.

i am only willing to give up my 5 years relationship for her. but the decision come too late. i only made up my mind when she flew away. when she finally met up with her current bf, everything change. she decided to give her bf another chance to work things out. and she doesn’t want me to give up 5 years relationship for her, because it remind her of her 6 years bf who broke up with her.

since then, i have been doing alot of stupid things to win her win her back. in short, it turn out really bad now. her image of me currently is like her ex who broke up with her 6 years ago. i don’t think she have any love for me anymore.

however, i still love her. i know it is wrong to love 2 person at one time. i know my current relationship will go smoothly and have a good future together. now all i wish is just be like old time in that one month i can’t share things with each other.

so.. mash, you can be very sure of your feeling at the moment. but one day, he might change or fall in love with another girl. so we must learn to accept each other. although your current bf doesn’t give you the love as much as the other, he still have other part of him you love. even if you choose another guy, one day you will still will find another person who can be better than him.