Dear Prudence,
Look at it this way. Imagine a precious stone—like a rare meteor—lying unnoticed on a busy street. It’s unremarkable to the eye, lacking any visual allure, yet holds immense value. One person glances at it but, dismissing it as just another pebble, walks away. Here, does it tell more about the person or the stone? Isn’t it the finder’s ignorance in failing to see what’s beyond the surface. Takeaway: It is not your fault. Having standards these days is rare and valuable. So have patience. Let the universe offer you chances. Chasing people and trying to make people like you is utter waste of time. What is destined will happen. Since you are 23, it is a peak time for you to use your youth, do the undoable.
I myself have never had any relationship before. I tried approaching a few potential partners before. They rejected. But these rejections taught me a lot of things about life, mind and matter. It is not important what you bear, but how you bear. And now when I look back and see what they are, I sometimes feel relieved that they rejected: what happened was good.
I know sometimes this is all easier said than done. But to be able to hold there for a moment requires a leap of faith: believing that the fate is in your direction. If something is not going in your direction, then its not meant to be. Each of us needs what nature gives it, when nature gives it.
Soham 🙂