Hi Dude,
I have lupus which is also a chronic illness for over 16 years. I was diagnosed when I was 18. The doctor told me not to bother with college because it would be a waste of money because I only had a life expect of 4 years (I did not listen and got my degree.) I also was told I could not have children ( I have 2 boys now.) The thing that helped me was educating myself with my illness (you can read just like the doctors read-they just have a piece of paper and spent a lot of money) , perseverance and trying new options. Yes, I also spent thousands of dollars on herbs, new age crazy antics but the key was trying something different finding hope in them. Yes, not all of them work but they worked on my spirit.

Recently I have been diagnosed with pneumonia and pleurisy, which has been a huge set back. I had a bit of a pity party last night but I dusted my self off this morning and got on the phone with the doctor’s offices,dedicated myself to annoy them until they help me. There is a way out of this but you have to start with your perception of the situation. Call on the people you know especially if they have a background that you could benefit from for advice. For example, my mother and my best friend are nurses. I check with them on medications and what they think. Don’t let the situation define who you are. -Southernspirit