Okay, so what y’all are tellin me is that if a guy happened to have kids by five different women, then it’s perfectly fine for all five women to text him on mothers day, thanking him for making them a mommy? Does it also follow that a woman who had kids by five different men should see no fault in texting each of them and thanking them, despite the fact that they have clearly moved on? Does it follow that a guy should do the same come Father’s Day?

“Thank you for making me a mommy” are very intimate words. They demonstrate an emotional connection that has not been severed. After a year, sure, maybe it’s appropriate. But after 8yrs where you’ve had no contact with the father, and have denied him visitation rights, its okay to send such a message, after you’ve learned he’s become serious with someone else? There’s a reason he’s ex – she made that choice. She walked out. She filed for divorce. She crucified him on social media. Yet despite all this,s it’s appropriate to send such a text? I’d like to see where in my life my brains fell out of my head cos this sounds like someone has not moved on.

• This reply was modified 8 years, 12 months ago by rhonda.