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    Stephanie
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    Pearce, Sagan’s ‘Pale Blue Dot’ speech gets me every time. Goose bumps…

    I think you are on to something when you said your answers weren’t static.  I think everything we want out of life changes with the situations we find ourselves in at that point in time.

    As for me in this particular moment, I am looking for acceptance and true connection with another person. Obviously with Craig’s response, I am not alone in this.  In my thinking, you are unable to have a true connection with someone without total acceptance of who that person is, whether or not they like salt or if they are an outdoor or indoor person…but in the end opening up to another person is scary and uncomfortable and most people come up with their own rules (read: excuses) to dating (and life) to avoid being uncomfortable…

    Maybe this is what the human race is striving for – continuously searching for a place they belong but the fear of vulnerability keeps us at arms length or in this day and age at keyboards-length.

    Our always connected society has diminished what it means to be connected.  And it is lonely…but like you said Pearce, I would rather take the ‘loneliness’ than settling for something less than what I want.

    Stephanie
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    H,

    There is some amazing advice in these responses to your question.

    If I may add, begin to Forgive Yourself. When you start to hear your inner critic, go silent, breathe.  Acknowledge in that moment that you have these negative thoughts, but just observe don’t interact with them. Then forgive yourself for those negative thoughts.  You will not silence that inner critic any time soon but in time it won’t take center stage. I would suggest (if you are not already) meditation.  There are a number of resources that have guided meditations that will help you learn to accept yourself…all perfect in your imperfectness 🙂

    It sounds as if you are keeping yourself busy, with teaching workshops, learning a new language, and weight lifting. Continue to find activities and hobbies that make you happy because that is what will attract love into your life.  It is hard and cliche but the minute you stop looking for something (love) that is when you will find it.

    Just know that you are not alone in your personal criticisms, feelings of being lost, and wanting to find love. All we can do is be here to help support each other.

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