Anita, I wasn’t a monster persay but I was on medication that made me quick to anger. It wasn’t constant and only lasted under six months. I went to therapy for a year after to address the issue.
I don’t think she is trying to torture me or anything like that. She still wishes me a good day when I leave for work and is kind to me. Says thank you when I do chores around the house. Her feelings of love are just gone. Even with the kids at times. I just want to know if they ever snap out of it or am I just hopeless. I’m here and devoted to her until the end but it just hurts. As far as words I said, I don’t remember but I was a monster just angry at her and the kids all the time. I worked on myself and got healthy again. I just don’t know…
I failed her by taking her for granted and not being around as much as I should be. I didn’t want our second kid and I didn’t handle it well and his first couple years of life and I also went through a depressive episode in which I said and did things that were mean
Thanks guys for the advice! I’m going to do what Marks article suggested and love from afar. I don’t buy that fact she doesn’t love me anymore. I gotta fight for this. Even if it does end I can be at peace knowing I tried everything I could to save this family.
I suggested that she find a job and she said she wants to. I think it would be good for possibly saving the marriage and for her mental health. She hasn’t made any strides towards any kind of exit plan. I’m currently sleeping in the basement. I’ve done a lot of soul searching and found many ways that I have failed her. I’m trying to improve those as we speak but she doesn’t want my company much or the company of anyone else. I’m exhausted.
She is depressed for sure. She blames me for the marriage problems and said she doesn’t love me anymore. She laughs and smiles when I flirt but the wife I used to love and adore seems to be gone. She does not want to go to marriage counseling or work on anything at the present juncture.
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