How could one day he be texting multiple times to check-in on me and the next decide he is fine not ever hearing back from me again

Hi there,

your confusion is understandable, I’ve been through something similar. I came to learn the person had secret mental illnesses, hence the opposing shifts. I chose to support him, but stability couldn’t be.

One responder mentioned depression & you mentioned he felt he needed to be perfect. I’m guessing his  inner world is what sabotaged it.

I agree-slower is better.

I found a good website called LoveFraud.com that helped me learn the difference between love bombing & other things.

I hope you find peace & wish you the best,

Sukie