Hi Penguin

I am a 21 year old girl who faces the same problem. I chose to move out of my city for studying on the hopes of having better exposure and extending my social network. but within few days I realized that I have no friends at all there. We both sail in the same boat. No matter how much effort I put in order to make good friends the attitudes never match. I stay alone in my room, have food alone, attend classes alone, travel alone and the list just goes on. The worst was when I got very ill and there was not a single person to help me out. And when I look at my friends back home I feel the same as you. Three months ago, loneliness started to take a toll over me. I started hating everyone around me for not being with me. My grades started going down and I stopped talking even with my family members. And there came all the people who were very much concerned to know why I was alone rather than helping me out. But last week I gave a deep thought into what I really want for myself to be happy and not feel lonely. I chose solitude over loneliness. I would rather be a little down than heartbroken. I started doing new things, learn about new stuffs, take up online courses, plan for the future , and where I would like to see myself two years from now. And now if someone asks why I am alone I can always say I prefer being alone. it is the best time one can get to improve himself rather than just having fun. And on the other note, I have a guy who has had the best times of his life in the same place with his friends and is regretting it now as it is affecting his personal life and professional life. He does give me companion but at the end of the day solitude is bliss. you need not have to break your head about anyone. I very well know how it means not to have any friends and feel lonely. But give a deeper thought – do you have an option? And remember if having friends needs one to party and drink then that would not make good friendship. I don’t know how far you will benefit from whatever I have told but at least don’t feel bad for not having friends.There are hundreds of people out there experiencing the same. I suggest you read the book How the Monk sold his Ferrari in case you like reading. And you can always discuss your feelings here and I would be there to help you out 🙂 🙂 Life is more than just having friends.Do not worry for what you don’t have and put yourself down. Rise up and look at what all you can do. On a lighter note, I feel happy sometimes that I am not answerable to anyone in the university and do what I like.

Love
Suma