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  • May 14, 2017 at 7:16 pm #149425
    sunshinegirl80
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    Hi there,

    My friends know what happened as we are all good friends. They are mature and are supportive, so not worried about that. Meaning, I am not embarrassed in the slightest. What happened, happened.

    I am going to go into this as calmly as possible. I’m just nervous is all. But I will do my best not to show that.

    I am just wondering if it would be a good idea to maybe reach out and send him a message prior to my arrival? Just to clear the air. Acknowledge what happened and just let him know that I just want to remove the elephant from the room. Because realistically, we will be around each other more often as we share the same best friends.

     

    May 12, 2017 at 11:29 am #149239
    sunshinegirl80
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    Hi there,

    Yes, it is about just seeing him again in the group setting. I know the whole “be yourself” and don’t show your emotions thing. It may be easier said than done. I think it will be okay. It’s funny, I know you just need to be yourself in this world..but sometimes nerves kick in and you second guess everything.

    As mentioned, I am going into it with no expectations. He hasn’t shown really any signs of continued interest, other than just friendship.  I mean it could be the distance, it could be the length of time that we haven’t seen each other. I mean, we would really need to catch up and learn more about each other, if anything. We did have one conversation after the trip, and I ended the conversation first but not before saying to him “I would love to talk again”…but he hasn’t reached out.

    I think I really know my answer. So now the whole part of my anxiety just rests in hanging out with everyone, and I guess just not letting him know that the situation “got” to me at one point. I do know my value…it’s just unfortunate.

    A couple of friends have brought up the possibility that he may try to proposition me again. If that happens, I will not do that.

     

    May 11, 2017 at 8:41 pm #149129
    sunshinegirl80
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    Hi Anita,

    Thank you for responding. To clarify about the provinces, I live in Canada and we don’t live in the same province (state).

    I appreciate the advice. I am really going into this with no expectations at all. So the ‘no go’ practice will work just great for me. My main concern was just being in a setting with him again. We had one conversation privately after we both returned home after the trip, but the topic of the night together was not discussed. So I am just feeling a little unsteady about being in a group setting.

    Thank you for your time 🙂

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