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  • in reply to: Need help #50114
    tamanna
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    Okay.., this is similar to my story…
    I exactly don’t know, what advise should I give you..? but I can share what I do under these circumstances…

    Look dear, we just have to see everything through different perspective…

    We have been , and going through difficult psychological and emotional situations… the feelings of being trapped in the things we cannot control…
    Its like the glass half full of water, one parent is so much understanding and supportive and the other one is not, in spite of having good intentions…

    But I always try to look at the positive things, this keeps our mind and heart at peace, after that it doesn’t matter what the hell goes on in the world… 😉
    By this we can make ourself happy and then others too, and this increases our happiness and hence we get caught in the cycle of happiness for some time…
    This should be practised on a regular basis… to develop the habit… 🙂

    So, I know that you are not getting what you want or expect, from one parent.
    But we can’t change them, right…? I know you know this… I also know that you must have tried many times to bring a positive change in them and their behaviour… without giving up…
    But, I have learned that if you can’t change something then you should accept it… let it be and start to focus on yourself… to improve yourself, thats what you have started… 🙂

    And you know what…? Today what you have become is because of both of your parents… while giving the shape, one metal is use to support the hot iron and other one hits it… your nature and character is the result due to both of them…

    Whatever you do, just never leave this desire of being free… never loose hope… keep patience, and one day at the right time you will be free and doing what you have always wanted…

    And never try to avoid and run from all these… go through all these situations , face them…

    There has been lot of limits put upon you.., but remember one thing…
    Nature always has the ability to find a way to grow…
    Aur tum bhi to nature hi ho na… 😉
    you will see,in the end you will become a diamond…

    To make yourself happy, you can do whatever you like to do (if you can).
    We cannot fulfil all our desires, but if we can, then we should…
    Even try to fulfil your smallest desire… Never ignore your other desires which you can fulfil, due to the sorrow of the desires you cannot fulfil…

    stick to your hobbies, play your favourite sport, or you can join a sports club for that…

    become a member of certain social organization or any organisation related to the field you like… this will bring you the opportunity to meet new people and learn new things… by this you can feel the freedom…

    or you can become a member of certain library or association, for the same…

    create something… do something creative, this will surely make you happy… like draw an sketch, paint what you like, cook a new dish, play the guitar or what you like and create the music…or join a music class…

    Start to learn something new, you like, you can join art classes or you can join courses related to your studies if you love to…

    Make yourself busy in improving yourself, you will feel better… 🙂

    books are very helpful in such cases… I have experienced this…(not the books related to your course, field and subject)
    many of us have the desires to explore… to visit new places and to meet new and different people to get knowledge and broaden our mind…
    we can achieve this by travelling…
    and the same can be achieved by reading books also…
    not exactly.., but books can make us feel that we are free…

    You should try it… read stories, novels and whatever you like…
    You will feel good… 🙂

    God Bless you…

    in reply to: Need help #50082
    tamanna
    Participant

    Yes of course.., i think you should ask her directly about this thing and why she is behaving so differently…
    at least for the first and the last time… u should clearly ask her…

    tamanna
    Participant

    I personally feel that if a relationship is making u a better person and leading u in the direction of your progress, then its worth keeping…
    and if not, if its leading u in the negative direction and continuously leaving u with varieties of negative thoughts and feelings, then u are not in a healthy relationship…

    okay, so both of u have broken up…

    Now u are left with loads of feelings, specially negative feelings, to tell her about what she had done… but u are afraid that she could do something bad, or harm herself… so leave it… don’t think about telling all this to her.., u are doing it right…

    So, first of all, don’t be harsh on yourself…
    you have done nothing wrong…
    we can’t control each and every situation…
    you have tried every thing you could…
    and you have done your best…

    but evrything still remained messed up… so just leave it (i know its difficult),and don’t blame yourself…

    I know you have many questions about all these situations and their results.., but don’t worry.., keep patience.., everything will make sense at the right time…

    You just have to wash all these negative thoughts off from your mind to see everything clear…
    and they are also not your mistake.., situations just happened and they trapped you…

    But now it’s you, who have to choose not to remain trapped by these negative thoughts any more…
    don’t believe them… fight with them.., each of them are rubbish… they don’t make any sense… the are useless…

    Focus on the positive things, (except the things related to her) this is obviously difficult.., but u have to fight na… force yourself to focus on positive things… at least for some weeks, stop focusing on her and start focusing on yourself, and wash your mind..!
    I mean to say, clear your mind and replace all your negative thoughts with positive ones…

    But be gentle on yourself.., do whatever you like…
    the best thing,as i feel, you can do is go for a trip… go on a small vacation.. and try to enjoy and experience each & everything there… this will surely clear your mind… and you will be able to see things more clearly…

    God bless you…!

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