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  • in reply to: Choosing Love #428515
    GreGory C
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    Dear Anita,

    How have you been doing? It’s been quite sometimes since we parted ways on this forum.  I would say I appreciated your kindness and summary you have made on the different threads that Lisa wrote regarding on her life’s journey.

    Congratulations for the advise.

    And thank you for listening to us and come back to the forum when there was little misunderstanding.

    Blessed.

    Gregory.

     

     

    in reply to: Anita’s Choice to Leave the Forums #420728
    GreGory C
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    Dear Anita,

    I know you’re superb person with strong personalities.

    Anita, I am sorry for the misery that has befallen you. You don’t deserve this. While you were busy trying to fix the life of others and your own, and your opposite sex came in and disorganised it. A mother like you should be careful when choosing a friend. Your TB participant has attracted liars and people with complex personalities. One sign that you’re dealing with a predatory human is that you’re not alloted to ask questions, especially questions that aim at their conduct and who they claim to be. You’ll be silenced by being accused of judging them by their past simply because you inquire about contradictions in their stories.

    Narcissists and users can not answer questions because, for them, it’s too dangerous to become known. They’re not interested in a mutually enriching relationship like normal people. Instead, they want a ‘user-friendly’ climate of confusion and lack of clarity. They create a pseudo intimacy to make you feel comfortable and to trust them. They show you only one side of their life, and they resist your questions about the rest of their life by gaslighting you into silence.

    They pretend to like the same things you like and to live with the same values you do, to make you feel connected.

    Do you like church and fellowship? They will show up the bible in hand and even lead songs and prayers. You like gym or hiking, they will join you the same week you started talking. You love travelling, they will help you pick destinations.

    But if you examine their life, you’ll notice that this is not their life but an act. They know, however, that you won’t check because you’re too flattered by how alike you seem.

    In the end, you’re falling for a friendship when it’s all but a trap. They want what you have although they can not offer you anything except lies and a mirage of love.

    Your defence is to always go deeper than excitement and get interested in a person’s real life. What do they do when you’re not together? Who do they talk to when they finish with you? Predators always have other ‘projects’ and victims on the other side. It doesn’t mean to stalk someone but rather to pay attention to patterns of disappearing and reappearing that’s not explained. If it was a job or other clean business, they wouldn’t be so shady or defensive around it. The biggest lies are always covered by obvious lies. Whenever something feels off, usually it is. Look closer.

    Kindly come back to Tinybuddha anytime you are willing to! Nothing can dim the light that shines from within. You have changed the lives of so many people around the globe. Example: myself. Could it be a case that you carry it for years?  No. We valued your friendly line and hospitality.

    I am from SSD and you are from India your ideas are like ideas of President William Ruto, from Kenya Really make African proud he a Truly Definition of African Leader, African Giant, African we Rise again. With this I think Africa need it own Strong Media to the world to Activate Government into action. However, Anita your words were like for RUTO.
    Regards.
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    in reply to: ex wants another try #412904
    GreGory C
    Participant

    Dear Natie

    I appreciated Anita for the consistency of advices she have really given you for free. Mistakes are in every corner and when it come and go it open up your eyes and give you a wise decision in the next mistake.

    A mistake that makes you humble is better than an achievement that make arrogant.
    I hope have studied the content of your relationship that went South…. of we were in the same boat.  I was in such relationship before but Anita tried so hardly to stand with me.  You have known the roots cause already.

    When you  know the content very well, you  have the key to open the door of all the listeners and learners who have open minds. This is the “logo”. Logos is the way into the hearts of someone with an open mind. Logos is about credibility. However, Logos is not just facts, it is about presenting them logically.  It is about stating facts, then connecting how they are related to other facts and then making a conclusion. Again

    “Everybody you attracted to you ain’t compatible with. Because it look good to you don’t mean it’s going to be good to you”

    How would you fight fair in your next  marriage? Of course you have learned already.
    Let  learn each other’s buttons and let  know when to back off and cool off in another room.

    We don’t let our  voices go about volume 5 in any argument.
    we don’t  need to call each other names, we don’t need to  talk about each other’s families during our  arguments.

    We don’t bring up what has been resolved in a past argument.

    We shouldn’t let the last words ourselves hear to  something regrettable and hurtful (before we  leave the house or got to bed)
    Words are hard to take back and the silent treatment isn’t good.

    Qn.2 Biggest mistake before marriage?

    Know how to find common ground. Not offering a full disclosure.
    Before marriage, put everything on the table.
    No secrets I have hide from you.
    Let them know you are credit report!
    Remember when you are dating someone…you’re dating their representative (the perfect, well-behaved version of them).
    “Everyone you are attracted to you ain’t always someone you’re compatible with.”

    Regards.

    Gregory.

    GreGory C
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Amen, thanks so much dear. I will make sure I i do a possible cared as I could.

    Appreciated.

    G.

    GreGory C
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    I’m happy and healthy thanks.

    My two sons are doing great. I appreciated you dear. Where are our friends Jay Jay and Peggy as well as Teak nowadays?

    Say hey to them.

    GreGory C
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    I’m happy and healthy thanks.

    My two sons are doing great. I appreciated you dear. Where is our from Jay Jay and Peggy as well as Teak nowadays?

    Say hey to them.

    in reply to: STRUGGLE MARRIAGE AND PAINFUL. #393113
    GreGory C
    Participant

    Hello Anita,

    How have you been doing?

    I was caught up by the serious sickness that took almost two weeks in my body , so now I’m back to healthy state.

    Thanks.

    Greg. Thondit’s dad. A proud father.

    in reply to: STRUGGLE MARRIAGE AND PAINFUL. #391974
    GreGory C
    Participant

    Hello Dear,

    As its usual flying first.

    Dear Anita,
    Thank you so much. You are indeed very good, very good to the earth.  I will keep each and everyone in my life.  I will fly with them. Though Sky is the only home of pilots where you met with so many birds , heavy clouds.

    The sky gets wide and deep. I’m in the cockpit with my crews. And my friends are far below me, taking pictures of the ocean.

    Finally,  I climb over to certain level of 40000ft where the machine is level and balanced at the cruising speed boulder and the view opens up.

    I can see here to the infinite horizon.  I feels  as though I’m staring at the edge of the earth,  where water meets the sky, blue on blue.  The wind screams across my skin. I look up. It’s bright.  It’s beautiful like Anita physical appearance,  its beautiful like Anita, encouragingly!!

    While my eyes are keening set on the aircraft system, still my 90% as Captain Maranga,  said looked outside to see where the aircraft is head and, what the computer is telling me to do, pressing every single button in an interval.

    I sit there for a moment of hours acrobatics oceans,  wrestling with so much turbulence and cliff and leaning my my both feet on the panel of the break, and keep my hand on the throttle with combined rudder to turns gradually.

    Confronting the reality of our own mortality is important bcuz it obliterates all the crampy,  fragile,  superficial values in life.

    Thank you to my brilliant and beautiful friend Anita,  who never hesitates to say no to me when I take any decisions,  and when I need to hear it most.

    Not only do you make me a better person,  but your unconditional love and constant feedback to everyone in tinybuddha during writing any thread in the forum.

    In many ways, I don’t feel as though I fully became an adult until I understood many of the concepts in this flying.  In that sense, it’s been a joy to get know you in this forum as per these past few years.

    Two big brains that conspire to make my brain appear much larger than it actually is. Your hard work and brilliance continue to floor me.
    Thank you.

    in reply to: STRUGGLE MARRIAGE AND PAINFUL. #391944
    GreGory C
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    How are you doing today?

    Sorry I had a long flight today. I did get time to respond you back.  Men work harder to bring the food on the table.  The same hard work my estranged wife left me in, never inclined at all.  We will see who will be who in the future.

    Though sometimes, Isn’t it funny how the people that hurt you the most, tend to react a different way when the table gets turned?. There’s a popular saying that goes “If you can’t eat it, then don’t serve it”. Don’t hurt someone and expect them to worship the ground you walk on because the world certainly doesn’t revolve around you. Just imagine sometimes I don’t like or a fun of revenge in my life. I got that sympathy to treated once that hurt me. I leave everything to God himself to judge it.

    Gregory.

    GreGory C
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Thanks for your wise response I thought and worries that my jokes might hurt you but I had appreciated you, I wish you all the best in your continuous studies, I will tell you nothing but the truth an educated woman is equivalent to ten men because you play so much duties at home but still manage to succeed in education side magnificent .

    God bless you Anita.

    Gregory.

    in reply to: STRUGGLE MARRIAGE AND PAINFUL. #391914
    GreGory C
    Participant

    Dear Anita.

    Thanks for the soft reply.  I wish you happy all the times.

    I never regret being put at the hard side but its always gave me a strength.

    I’m requesting you to climb to fly level 080ft higher but unfortunately you are descending to fly level 100ft I see and hear request report to 5miles Emami 🙉😆😆🤔

    With this be blessed.

    Greg.

    in reply to: STRUGGLE MARRIAGE AND PAINFUL. #391903
    GreGory C
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Thank you for being at the shore of ideas when I need you, then you are there to offered.  Either if once is glancing for your contribution you are there too,,,,, to give whatever,  he request for!!!

    Yes, soon my son Thondit (Agoth) is gonna fly with me as Maranga did to his son Emmanuel.

    Maranga,  introduced me into so many things in life. He put me into flying school and he took to me further born again  church,  where I was appointed as leader in the choirs for 3 years.

    I remembered the time we flow together with his son Emmanuel and a father,  as well as family friend (me) from Nairobi to Kigali back to Nairobi.  You can check it on his fb peter maranga.  Where he was interviewed while I was on the jam sit. Maranga is a kindred hearted man like Anita,  who help a lots of people with so many traumas , you devoted your advised free of charge.

    Soon or nor later my son will be in the cockpit with me. As you have seen already.

    He knows the word go around when we are landing and we happen to spot another aircraft in our TCAS.

    In the moment of silence God be with you. And hence CAN U PROVIDE ME your EMAIL ADDRESS.

    in reply to: STRUGGLE MARRIAGE AND PAINFUL. #391893
    GreGory C
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Thanks for your input.  Every step you shared with me give me courage and learn more.  Yes, if there’s any possibility where I could help to transform the young couples I’m ready to offered my ideas. As well as my wife will definitely play her role to give best to their opposite sex.  I have learnt a lots from so many elders how take cares of your wife and it is a collective ideas from well mannered parents.

    I love the well mannered and educated Captains of Aviation pilots.

    The success of a child is the blessing from both parents. Most of they children don’t acknowledged this ideas. My mom used to prayed for us and she stated I feels Gregory,  will one day fly people with his aircraft and Now I do!!

    Its important to every child to have a blessing from both parents.. one day When people ask Capt Maranga, what he does for a living, he replies “I fly airplanes and write about them. He has so many books he wrote like “License to Fly”. And I’m one of the most fortunate people in the world to have been able to make a career of doing what I love.” Capt Peter maranga,  has been a pilot for more than  45 years, an aviation writer for more than 40 and has been lucky enough to get to fly just about every type of personal and business airplane in production from the 1950s onward. He was on the Flying Magazine staff for 25 years and editor-in-chief for 20 of those years. He holds several business jet type ratings  and he has been flying B787,  B747,  B763, B777, direct to New York, and  has logged more than 60,000 hours. they instructor retired last year from flying and he has remained as an aviation industry chief- pilots. Captain Maranga,  was the God fearing pilot, he has flow with his son Emmanuel Several occasions.  He was the first person who introduced me in flying school. He trained me. He advised me,  handle this little bird called airplane like handling a married woman,  when u don’t treated her well she becomes very stubborn. An aircraft is as the same as a woman. When u don’t give attention, he tell you wonders.

    I love and give respect to any ladies in the world.

    God bless you Anita.

    Greg

    in reply to: STRUGGLE MARRIAGE AND PAINFUL. #391892
    GreGory C
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Thanks for your input.  Every step you shared with me give me courage and learn more.  Yes, if there’s any possibility where I could help to transform the young couples I’m ready to offered my ideas. As well as my wife will definitely play her role to give best to their opposite sex.  I have learnt a lots from so many elders how take cares of your wife and it is a collective ideas from well mannered parents.

    I love the well mannered and educated Captains of Aviation pilots.

    The success of a child is the blessing from both parents.

    Its important to every child to have a blessing from both parents.. one day When people ask Capt Maranga, what he does for a living, he replies “I fly airplanes and write about them. He has so many books he wrote like “License to Fly”. And I’m one of the most fortunate people in the world to have been able to make a career of doing what I love.” Capt Peter maranga,  has been a pilot for more than  45 years, an aviation writer for more than 40 and has been lucky enough to get to fly just about every type of personal and business airplane in production from the 1950s onward. He was on the Flying Magazine staff for 25 years and editor-in-chief for 20 of those years. He holds several business jet type ratings  and he has been flying B787,  B747,  B763, B777, direct to New York, and  has logged more than 60,000 hours. they instructor retired last year from flying and he has remained as an aviation industry chief- pilots. Captain Maranga,  was the God fearing pilot, he has flow with his son Emmanuel Several occasions.  He was the first person who introduced me in flying school. He trained me. He advised me,  handle this little bird called airplane like handling a married woman,  when u don’t treated her well she becomes very stubborn. An aircraft is as the same as a woman. When u don’t give attention, he tell you wonders.

    I love and give respect to any ladies in the world.

    God bless you Anita.

    Greg

    in reply to: STRUGGLE MARRIAGE AND PAINFUL. #391876
    GreGory C
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Thanks for sharing every steps of the story here. You an uncomparable woman.

    Humans are  unique in that we’re the only animals that can conceptualize and think about ourselves abstractly.  Dogs don’t sit around and worry about their career. Cats don’t think about their past mistakes or wonder what would have happen if they’d done something differently.  Monkeys don’t argue over future possibilities,  just as fish don’t sit around wondering if other fish would like them more if they had longer fins.
    As humans,  we’re blessed with ability to Imagine ourselves in hypothetical situations, to contemplate both the past and the future, to Imagine other realities or situations where things might be different.

    My wife is one of those women who spend a lot of time in front of the mirror.  She loves to look amazing,  and I love fir her to look amazing too (obviously).
    Nights be4 we go out, she comes out of the bathroom after an hour- long makeup / hair/clothes/whatever- women- do – in- there session and asks me how she looks. She’s usually gorgeous.  Every once in a while, though,  she looks bad. Maybe she tried to do something new with her hair.

    Men stereotypically lie in this situation to make their gf/wives happy.  But I don’t. why? Because honesty in my relationship is more important to me than feeling good all the time.  The last person I should ever to censor myself with is the woman I love.

    Fortunately,  I’m married to a woman who agrees and is willing to hear my uncensored thoughts.   She calls me out on my bullshit too, of course,  which is one of the most important traits she offers me as a partner. Sometimes we had little misunderstanding,  little disagreement and agree.

    Without conflict,  there can be no trust.  Conflict exists to show us who is there for us unconditionally and who is just there for the benefits.  No one trusts a yes- man.

    I step from rock to rock, climbing steadily,  leg muscles stretching and aching.  But at least I got the sober woman to be with. The sky gets wide and deep when u encounter with wrong heartless one.

    There’s a saying in Portuguese: Ele  dobra  o cabo  da Boa Esperança.  It means,  ” He’s rounding the Cape of Good  Hope.” Ironically,  it means that the person’s life is in its final phase,  that he’s incapable accomplishing anything more
    Anita,  in life 50% of the time things don’t your ways and when they don’t,  don’t get work up (big strength in life).

    I will continue to teach others men to be good father and caring husband.

    God bless you.

    Greg

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