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May 18, 2013 at 2:58 am #35833
wow.the last part has blown me off my wits.i myself from general anxiety,and till this very point of time,felt that the only way i can cure it is by helping others and getting the answers for myself,from myself.i almost thought that this was something heroic,that i am in a muddle,and i can still help other people,but this was an eye-opener,truly.
i failed to recognize that whatever i come up with helping others gets blown away in the wind when i truly need it…
thank you so much for the much needed insight.May 17, 2013 at 11:57 pm #35828
what i wanted to write is still not getting posted….ugh…this is what it says
ERROR: Duplicate reply detected; it looks as though you’ve already said that!May 17, 2013 at 11:53 pm #35824
well,to start,i almost blushed at the big head on your shoulder thingie.thanks,it means a lot 🙂May 17, 2013 at 3:07 pm #35820
hey,i wrote down a reply to this,but the reply just doesn’t seem to be getting posted out here.some technical flaw i guess.you have some other e-mail or sth. where i could send it .only if you don’t mind sharing it obviously.really wrote it with all my heart*puppy dog eyes*May 17, 2013 at 1:26 pm #35810
@ peter-i really admire the pragmatism of it all…i mean,once you look outside the bubble of anxiety and self doubt,life doesn’t seem as debilitating after all…
May 17, 2013 at 12:43 pm #35808
- This reply was modified 10 years, 9 months ago by tinydisciple.
hey,i can completely understand the scenario…and let me warn you,i am no wise owl,rather,i am just 18,younger than you,obviously,but i can definitely empathise with you,and maybe,in the midst of it all,help you somehow.
i have lived with anxiety for as long as i gained my senses.the worst part-i was always in denial.that i am OKAY and this is how it is supposed to be…now the reasons for the anxiety were many,living in a dysfunctional family,a very difficult mother,a sibling who is intellectually challenged.i don’t remember one moment as a kid,when i was at peace.
call it conditioning,but definitely,i was wired to be stressed out at the smallest of pretext.but my talent was-i could hide it from the world.i could put up a fake grin and pretend that i am strong,as the anxiety builded up inside…
my jaw dropped when you said “at the moment I am angry with myself for letting it affect my life still, as I feel that my state of mind is part of the reason that I didn’t get the grades I wanted.”….it was like the *a-ha* moment where you cleared the mist in my own mind,because i finally recognised what was eating me up too.i feel the same way…and then it hit me,because more often than not,the answers are always within you,but you are able to extract them more articulately when you are trying to help others.like i am,now.
the first thing we should stat with is to STOP BLAMING ANXIETY for anything and everything wrong that has happened.that would be feeding your anxiety with what it wants,your defeated spirits,and then soon enough,you will find yourself blaming anxiety for everything wrong in life.so,we first start by fully accepting our anxiety,and assuring ourselves that we will work with it,and not without it.the more we resist the anxiety,the wilder it is going to be.
the second thing,your *average grades* and how it might affect your job prospects.first ,you really have to be very clear whether you could somehow gain the degree you feel is going to strengthen your prospects.if it is impossible in the current scenario,leave the idea for once and for all.big deal.move on.now,what do we do with the degree that we have,i am thinking,go out there in the world,AND FACE IT ,HEAD ON. i am not going to say naive things like it’s going to be okay…there are things beyond just a job.no.your career is important to you,that’s why you are stressed,AGREED.but what do you do about it??
when i am in a fix, i ask myself-WHAT’S IN MY BOAT.can you control that other people have a better degree ,and hence a better job prospect than you.no. can you control whether the employer is looking for just a degree or a person who is actually meant for the job.no.can you control the outcome of every interview that you are going to give.HELL NO.what is in your boat is-going out there and fighting for it,till you run out of breath.period.