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  • February 12, 2018 at 12:21 am in reply to: Dilemma #191957
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    Brief update. I reached out to her a few days ago to see how she was doing and make sure she was ok?

    I had no response to this. I won’t reach out again but just thought it was odd she made a point of saying we would stay friends to then ignore me. I was a little annoyed at first but in reality I know she has more important stuff going on and I just need to move on fully.

    January 14, 2018 at 5:48 am in reply to: Dilemma #186543
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    She reached out to me last night via message and just asked if we are still friends.

    I replied and said yes and we exchanged a couple of short messages. I actually feel better as a result of this as it has allowed me to see there is no ill feeling from her towards me and visa versa.

    January 6, 2018 at 2:15 pm in reply to: Dilemma #185367
    Tom
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    I am not worried as such but as i was there along the pregnancy feel i should send a congratulations message when the time arrives.

    I will play it by here and see how i feel when the time arrives in 6 weeks or so.

    Thanks for your replies, much appreciated.

    January 6, 2018 at 9:29 am in reply to: Dilemma #185357
    Tom
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    But I don’t if asking will help me move on. She like me has the option to reach out so if neither of us do then I guess we are both just moving on.

    January 6, 2018 at 8:53 am in reply to: Dilemma #185353
    Tom
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    I don’t know that she will think that. It’s just in my nature to think that she would but I would think that about anyone, not just specifically her if that makes sense.

    January 6, 2018 at 1:50 am in reply to: Dilemma #185311
    Tom
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    Thanks Anita, I will do this.

    One thing i would like your opinion on is whether I should message this girl again. It ended amicably and we said we would stay friends but we haven’t spoke since. I am having a bit of a social media detox and don’t have any of the apps on my  phone so will not see any updates etc about her or when the baby maybe born. My account is still active though.

    Shoukd i let her know this so she doesn’t think I am rude or I should not even worry about it and just get on with things? I haven’t heard from her at all like I said and I’m sure she isn’t worrying about me.

    January 4, 2018 at 2:11 pm in reply to: Dilemma #185087
    Tom
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    Thanks Anita,

    A lot of my close friends have settled down etc so I do feel a little left behind even though I know it is not healthy for me to compare like this.  I will dust  myself down in due course and put myself out there again when ready.

    January 3, 2018 at 2:09 pm in reply to: Dilemma #184895
    Tom
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    Thanks Anita, Your replies always do help add some perspective. I think that the daunting thing for me is that I live alone so it is the worry of overthinking and fear of being alone that perhaps bothers me.

    January 3, 2018 at 12:24 am in reply to: Dilemma #184801
    Tom
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    Quick Update.

    We carried on seeing each other up until this week. I was supportive in every way I could be. The father wants to be involved and would like the two of them to give it a go. I have taken a step back and will remian friends with the girl but in reality will leave her to make her own mind if she wants to give it a go with the dad etc or just be on her own. Maybe later down the line we can re-connect and date again but I think the most important thing at this point is for her to focus on the baby and do what she sees best for her.

    I had grown to like this girl so I do a feel a little down about it as it is back to the drawing board in terms of dating for me.

    November 2, 2017 at 10:48 am in reply to: Dilemma #176261
    Tom
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    I will ask for clarification on how she didn’t know etc but I have no reason not to believe her. She seems a very genuine person and was clearly upset when she told me and still shocked about the situation.

    November 2, 2017 at 8:53 am in reply to: Dilemma #176241
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    She is keeping it. She didn’t actually realise she was pregnant until last week and is too far along to terminate it.

    Terri – I am very happy with her. That is why it was a bit of a shock. I could definitely see us together for a long time,

    September 28, 2017 at 2:03 am in reply to: Where do I stand? #170711
    Tom
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    Hi Elena,

    I think you are right. I sent her a message this morning to see how her week is going etc.

    If I hear nothing back I will move on and delete her details etc.

    I do think I will tell her that she should have said she wasn’t interested rather than just going quiet/cold. I think the time we spent together etc warranted that and it is just the decent thing to do and what I would have done to her.

    A little gutted about it as we got on so well I thought and there is no real reason for what has happened. She was so keen to begin with and I didn’t change and was always nice to her so not sure what I did wrong.

    September 27, 2017 at 12:53 pm in reply to: Where do I stand? #170655
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    I appreciate you taking the time to discuss this with me.

    I hope I get the chance to do. If I haven’t heard from her over the next few days I will reach out over the weekend. If she gets back to me, I will try and seek closure one way or the other after speaking with her. If she doesn’t get back to me then I guess I will already have the closure.

    September 27, 2017 at 8:35 am in reply to: Where do I stand? #170597
    Tom
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    I think those questions would be better in person would they not.

    I probably should have rose these issues on the last date.

     

     

    September 27, 2017 at 6:33 am in reply to: Where do I stand? #170567
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

     

    So you think I should reach out again via message to make my intentions to see her again clear?

    As I mentioned above, I reached out to her a few days ago and had nothing back.

     

    Feels like the beginning of a ghosting but could be wrong.

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