Thanks Anita. I will try that. I did map out everything last time even though I kind of blurted it out on our way to the grocery store in a slew of tears. I guess I did not expect him to fight me so hard, but now I know and I can be more prepared. It sucks because its like if we split, he has no where to go and that has been a huge factor in my not speaking on the issue again. But I drive to and from work daily with boulders on my shoulders because of this. We do not have kids together, the 2 are mine from previous relationships. I feel horrible because he really has been trying lately. Even this morning he says we should kiss more outside of physical intimacy and I’m like slowly dying inside while I smile and say ok… Thanks again