Hi Anita,

When he first asked me to be his girlfriend he was going away for the weekend for a friends wedding and was worried I would go on dates with other people and he was insecure about that. He assured me that he had insecurities but that wasn’t why he asked me to be his girlfriend.

He has a lot of anxiety and cant cope with it at all. I didn’t think of his as less than and it made me feel good that i could provide him with the attention/support he needed. Part of the problem was he go so anxious that he didn’t think he was making me happy and all he wanted to do was make me happy. I let him down because i didn’t tell him or show him how happy he actually made me feel. I let my fears and worries get in the way because i didn’t feel worthy enough for his love so i push him away. When i needed support from him it was too late and he didn’t want to fight when i was going through a tough time so he told me he “projected what he was felling and ran away”. he said he didn’t want to give it another go because he didn’t want to get hurt in the future and fall back in to the same pattern. He still misses me and say he will never forget me and that seeing me the other day confused him but I am just a friend to him now.

thanks

Turtle x

Thanks Inky – you’re right, he is so sensitive and I am so strong headed that i blew it! I am going to focus on healing and let him make the moves where he see’s fit.

I have considered dating but I feel like I am not in the right head space to give someone my all and I think that would be unfair on them.

thanks 🙂