Dear Nina,

Like you said I also have moments when I’m angry and mad and feel I’ve been used. Other times I feel something else and those feelings are going in circles every day.

Also thinking of her being with someone else is so painful that I have the feeling that I wasn’t good enough for her. It’s making me feel worthless even knowing I’m not and I have all the qualities one normal guy must have. But of course she has all the rights to date who ever she wants now. On my side of things I somehow feel that If I start dating again it will be like I’m betraying our past love and moments. I know this kind of thinking sounds stupid but that’s the way I’m living it at the moment.

I want her to be happy even if that means without me and I hope I will be happy and confident again like I was before our break up.

• This reply was modified 8 years ago by U.

Nina, thank you for participating on this thread.

Seems like you felt the same way like my ex now. In time apart you have learned that love is much more than sparks and butterflies. I know she needs to discover those things on her own without me but my God the pain inside me is devastating.

Funny thing is that I’m kinda afraid to ever trust another woman after this relationship because the girl can be a real sweetheart but in the end you can allways expect those words “I don’t feel the same anymore”.

What happened during your time apart Nina, did you reach out to him at some point and have you dated other man?

Thank you for your response Anita.

I’m going trough every post breakup feeling, can’t sleep, can’t eat, can’t concentrate on my work and so on. It’s been a couple of months already. I have friends who also had young and immature girlfriends and ended up married to them and I thought my ex girlfriend would be one of them but sadly I could never know this day would come. That’s the reason I feel lonely and worthless even after knowing things happened because of her immaturity. It’s when the feeling is much stronger then the individual itself. I’m an emotional guy and maybe that’s the reason I feel this way even after having a clear picture of the reason this happened. I also know how she feels because I know her better than she knows herself. She’s scared because she’s aware that she broke my heart but that doesent heal my pain and she’s probably repeating in her mind the famous words “I miss him but I did the right thing”.

I’m living in a small city in Argentina and the social life here is very low and so is moving on from this situation. I do go out with my friends and I try really hard not to think of it but it’s not so easy because I loved her to the point where I was ready to take a bullet for her and in the end she took all my love for granted.

I would like to know what it takes to move on from this heartbreaking situation.