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March 3, 2015 at 9:22 am #73465WRMParticipant
In terms of my experience, it’s been three months and I can confidently say that the feeling passed after 1-2 weeks. Of course, I was lucky that I broke up with my ex-partner before x-mas so I had my family with me. But even on the second month, I was sleeping soundly, knowing that I made the right decision and turning my concerns to other important issues. We’ve contacted since and everything is quite pleasant and, while I have my regrets here and there, it’s easier for me to look back and agree with myself “yes, I missed the best friend, but as a partner it wasn’t right”.
His life is not your responsibility, Aryanna. Only your life is.
Just remember “this too, shall pass” Take the time, cry a bit and continue living. You’ll feel better before you realize it 🙂November 24, 2014 at 1:22 pm #68329WRMParticipant
I want to thank everyone for their posts on this. I’m going through a situation very similar.
I am 26 and he is 36 and, while I want to get married, I know that’s something closer on the horizon for him. As time when on I had to debate whether I could truly stay with him if I couldn’t even see a future.
But as soon as we broke up and since then I’ve been having thoughts of whether I made the right decision or if I was giving up something because I might be afraid of commitment.
I’ve also heard the “you know instantly” story and I have to say that the one thing I’m holding on to is the idea that with the same situation and a different person, I would make the same decision to end it.
I miss him and I’ve certainly cried more than a few times over not having him (or his dog) in my life anymore. But I realized I miss him as my best friend but not as a lifetime companion.
Anyways, I stumbled across this thread and wanted to thank you all for sharing your experiences. I know with my mind that I’ve made the right decision, I’ll just have to manage emotionally until I come to terms with it.