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June 24, 2021 at 2:56 pm #381950
That is so kind of you 🙂 Thank you for everything, and I will definitely write to you again. Take care!June 23, 2021 at 11:05 pm #381915
Your response bought a smile to my face <3. Admittedly, I often apply the perfectionism thinking in my day-to-day work. I feel very satisfied when I give my best effort to everything – which is good but then definitely has its downfalls. I need to be more aware and remember not to hide behind this ‘not enough’ thinking or use it as an excuse. I will never reach a perfect version of myself obviously. Thank you for bringing that up.
I have been so hesitant to be in a relationships that I think I have subconsciously closed off opening up to guys, which is not good. I do need to open myself to form a relationship in the future. I am realizing this has blocked my personal growth as well in the present. Funnily enough, I was just thinking about this last week, and planned to make a conscious effort to open myself up more to form deeper friendships. They really teach you more about yourself than you would expect.
I felt so nice and grateful for your words. I really appreciate your time 🙂
VJune 23, 2021 at 10:44 pm #381914
I really really appreciate your words. I wasn’t able to talk to anyone about this, and talking it out here has made me feel lighter and given me more clarity. Thinking over everything, I can see my physical insecurities being the biggest point. I think once I work over them in the next couple of years, it will help me open up and I can also focus on my career during this time. I observed how much more confident I feel when I am physically feeling and looking good, and I often miss that confidence. I am not saying that I am obsessed with physical looks and everything, but I was one of those girls who never paid any attention to looks and clothes until high school. Now that I am growing up, I am finding I want that physical confidence with me. It has been holding me back subconsciously in other areas of life too. Working on this and other insecurities/fear makes me feel much more confident and loving with myself.
Sorry for the blabbering but THANK YOU for listening 🙂June 23, 2021 at 10:27 pm #381913
Hi Roro – Thank you for taking the time to respond! I never gave much thought to how dating can also help me learn more about myself. Holding off for now sounds better for me personally.June 13, 2021 at 11:22 pm #381433
Thank you so much for reading and replying 🙂 I appreciate what you wrote for me and it definitely helped to hear your views.
While thinking about what you wrote, I think my biggest insecurities are physical. I don’t hate my body (I am very grateful for a healthy working body), but I am not exactly comfortable with it either. I recognize many of hesitations comes from the physical aspect and I have started to work on them, losing weight being the biggest one. I have decided to work on myself physically until I graduate to overcome my fears and insecurities.
Also, I never thought about setting ground rules for dating. I love that idea and I want to think about those before I start to date. I usually feel confident in my reasonings not to date right now, but sometimes I tend to lose sight of that because literally every other person is dating or has dated. Makes me feel if I am wrong or committing a mistake, you know? But I know first dealing with my stuff will only help me in the long run.
Thank you for your words!