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    Dear Makingtide,

    I will also like to share some other tools that I used to lessen the pain and heal. Please note that I am on the other side..the hurt spouse. I employed healing tools like EFT, EMDR and Hoe’ponopono. Whenever I saw a panic attack coming in I would resort to self administered EFT or EMDR. I also watched a lot of Youtube videos of Thich Nhat Hanh, a Buddhist monk and teacher. The clarity of thoughts and insights that you get from his videos is invaluable. If you really want to mend this marriage, you will have to be magician, to find out more and more of the inside world of your spouse. You will have to be in a non-judgemental place and accept all her weaknesses. Getting to know her better and accepting her as she is would start a new chapter in your life. You will be surprised to know how little you know her. While you do this, you also need to keep healing yourself of whatever baggage you carry. Together both of you can heal and thrive. It really happens. Believe! Every moment is a miracle. You have to just accept the miracle and be grateful for it. You are the captain of you ship and you will have to do all the work, the good and the bad. Tread carefully and you will get lucky. EFT and EMDR are invaluable. The beauty of the journey is that you will understand more about yourself than you did before you started. Both of you can heal together, I have faith in this. A prayer a day for your spouse also allows your mind to dwell on the good in the relationship and forgive the deficiencies. Give it all you have. Good luck and God Bless

    Vikram
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    Dear Makingtide,

    I understand how you feel. Although you accept that you have caused harm and pain to your wife over 25 years, the pain and hurt that you experience now is real too. With the little experience that I have, I can only advise what could change the situation quickly. You have to start living in gratitude. You have to practice chanting thank-you’s thousands of times a day. The chanting should not be mindless uttering of the words thank-you but you have to see the beauty of every situation, and every thing. You have to see the good in everything that is happening in your life now. Root out hatred from your being and let your heart open.  If practiced correctly this will quickly change you and the change would be palpable to your wife. Gratitude is magic. But you cannot cheat(lie to yourself) while practicing gratitude, doing so will nullify everything. You need patience too. Within sometime compassion will start flowing and you would be in a better place to make her happy and cherish her. God bless.

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