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  • December 28, 2013 at 5:42 pm in reply to: How Do I Let Go? #47775
    eden
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    Cyd,

    Thank you; you’re absolutely right. I am managing much better now. He ignored me for a week (exactly) and finally sent a text saying he hadnt heard my msgs until that day..that he was outta the country. Either he was or he wasnt but choosing to ignore me was the best/worst thing he could have done for me. By ignoring me I was forced to deal with my feelings on my own. I cried my eyes out, did alot of thinking, and accepted my original decision to break up with him. By the time he got around to texting me, I didnt care anymore.

    I think he thought he was teaching me a lesson with the silent treatment and that by the time he contacted me I would be desperate to reunite. WRONG. I didnt call him and he continued to text daily and finally got the message that I was done. He tried to bait me with my belongings..asking me to come get them cuz he was leaving town for a month. I told him that was fine amd I would get them when he returns. He cant believe that I dont want to be w/ him. Hes always chased by women. Not this one.I miss the routine of having some on in my life but I’m sure that will pass soon. Good riddens.

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    December 20, 2013 at 9:50 pm in reply to: How Do I Let Go? #47261
    eden
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    Thank you, Sarah.

    I dont know what my problems is. If this were a friend of mine telling the same story I would tell her she’s better off without him. I guess for two years I let his blame shifting convince me that I was wrong most of the time, even when my gut was telling me otherwise. He treated me better than any other man, including my ex husband, and I was holding on to that feeling and trying to ignore the negatives. Because if I WAS the problem at least I could try and fix it. But I see now, it wasnt me. Sure I wasnt perfect , but I have no problem acknowledging when Im wrong.

    And now that he cant get me to do/be as he wants, I get discarded. It just hurts so much.. because I thought he really loved me. Im sure in his mind, he is justified and feels that I hurt him. But his logic is skewed. Even tho I know deep down it wasnt going to work it still hurts. Two years of investment down the drain. And Ive never ended a relationship in hostility. But I cant make him call..even though he has my stuff which I have asked for repeatedly..so I guess I will just have to take a loss. Thanks for your reply. Much appreciated.

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