Terri, have you tried doing EFT on the shame that you felt as a child? That’s a pretty effective way of dissolving what’s in the dark recesses of the mind.

Hopeless dreamer, you’ve received such good comments from everyone.

I don’t know your background but I hope that the perspective I offer helps in some way.

Another perspective is that what you’re feeling is pure and utter roller-coaster-thrilling excitement.

The kind you get when you are young and later when you’re a satisfied, middle-aged woman with your life’s dream around you, you look back and smile at the thrilling highs and lows of the emotions that proved to you that life flows through your veins.

It’s a beautiful feeling and you’re only scared because it’s so powerful and you want it so much that the fears are amplified. (If the guy was a dork or someone sitting squarely on the average line, you’d have tons of confidence texting him).

Enjoy the feeling! As paradoxical as it seems, this feeling is something you will treasure 🙂

PS: I’m conscious that I’m kind of transferring my experience here because me and hubby have been together 26 years and I still remember how scared I was in those early days. And the trauma when we broke up to focus on exams and the heady exhiliration of getting back together.

My point is, you’re going to have emotions and some are going to ride you the way the sea rides a fishing boat.

Coach yourself with self-awareness and all the other great skills to keep you strong and stabilised and just feel the fear and do it anyway.

PPS: Being “late in the game” is more in your head than it is in his. It’s not a negative.