Ramadan started since march. I was unable to fast for the first due to extreme fatigue and there was some other health issue. I did feel guilty but i let go(my religious OCD doesnt spare me). Then my periods started so I couldnt fast the second week. I still had fatigue and was busy with work the third week i.e last week. I did feel guilty but I kept telling myself that I am trying my best. I fasted on Friday but I felt extremely tired end of the day. I dont feel like fasting this Ramadan but my religious OCD keeps telling me that I am not good enough. So i started since Friday. I dont feel like fasting this month at all but at the same time it makes me feel like bad Muslim. I think my religious OCD is getting the best of me since the Saturday.I have been feeling anxious about it.

“At the same time, setting boundaries is okay! You can guide them while making sure they feel safe and heard. It’s all about striking that balance and creating an environment where they can talk to you without fear of judgment. But I think it’s also important to remember that as a parent, you have a strong influence on shaping your child’s values and decision-making. By encouraging open communication, teaching her about consequences, and modeling the behaviors you want to see, you can help them navigate these challenges.”
-This is spot on. This is what my husband told me when I had the same discussion with him. He is so emotionally mature than me. I still do get angry with her when she makes mistakes like wasting food, ignores or gives me an attitude, doesnt listen to me.I try my best but its hard sometimes. I am not sure where to draw the line sometimes.

Hey Anita,

I want to talk about something thats going on my mind right now.

I was looking at sudhiksha konankis missing case. That made me scared about my little ones future. I dont like somethings about american culture especially sex(hook up culture), alcohol and drugs. Why cant people have a social life without drinking. I know I was brought up in a very conservative way but looking at all these incidents made me worry about my kids future.
I have also seen so my DUI cases online where people killed other people under influence and how some of the parents neglected thier kids because of alcohol and drugs. Why is it so common in US ? I know I am no one to judge. I cant imagine my kid doing all these things.

Thanks for your help Anita! I eat mostly low fod map diet except garlic and onions. They are part of my indian curries 🙁
Like i said I cook food everyday at home.
I understand the gut and brain connection. I have been in survival mode from 2018 to 2022.I was stuck in never ending loop of anxiety every second of my life. That has really impacted my gut. I started feeling bit better since 2023 with the help of my therapist. I still get anxious like when my friend ignored me , i have a presentation, social anxiety but I feel like I am in better place now. Just feeling bit depressed this eek about my ibs as its really impacting my life.
Would you mind sharing your IBS healing journey ? You dont have to if dont want to.

Thank you for your kind and uplifting words Anita!

Did anxiety ever give you gut issues? We eat out only once in a week. I cook food everyday at home but I still have the digestive issues. For the past two years I feel like I am overeating and hard to control my cravings. I dont even exercise.

I come to office everyday. I go home then cook food. Eat, sleep and repeat.

I hate eating healthy and exercising.

Hey Anita, How are you doing ? At first, it felt like I am so easy to convince. I cant stand by my own opinion. He did give reassurance that he will only give me thats interesting. I am seeing that in his actions right now.

I am gong through some health issues right now. This anxiety has really wrecked my gut. It gave me digestive issues and its getting worse. It has become worst for the past two years. I want to eat healthy but its getting hard to control my cravings especially the week before my periods. I feel lost. I have my period next week and I am feeling so depressed about it.

I feel so selfish because I text you only when I need something 🙁 I am even delaying my replies now a days. I am trying to handle my emotions on my own. But this health issue is really making me feel depressed.

I feel like I am in a better place now but then I have to battle this issue,. It sucks.

Hey Anita,Thanks for checking on me.I am good.How are you ?I was thiking about you today.I am very busy with my work now a days. I did hear/see about the hindu festival.Some things triggered me when I saw them online.But i was able to cope up.I didnt hear much about stampede.I saw videos like people polluting the river, men taking pics of women when taking dip in the river and there was some procesession of sadhus that scared me when i saw them.I was like why do people want to go when there are no proper facilities.Some people follow religion blindly i guess.Religion is a very big deal in India. Who am I judge to them so I just let it go.My ocd got triggered that i was judging the hindu religion so i dont bother about it much.Like i said, I was able to cope up.