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  • in reply to: Passing clouds #444190
    Zenith
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    Hey Anita,

    I want to talk about something thats going on my mind right now.

    I was looking at sudhiksha konankis missing case. That made me scared about my little ones future. I dont like somethings about american culture especially sex(hook up culture), alcohol and drugs. Why cant people have a social life without drinking. I know I was brought up in a very conservative way but looking at all these incidents made me worry about my kids future.
    I have also seen so my DUI cases online where people killed other people under influence and how some of the parents neglected thier kids because of alcohol and drugs. Why is it so common in US ? I know I am no one to judge. I cant imagine my kid doing all these things.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #444071
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    Thank you for sharing your experience Anita! I have been eating healthy food and I am feeling better. Then I go down hill. Its hard to keep up with the diet. For its mostly the SPICY food that triggers my gut.

    I have been working remote once a week. I feel like my ocd/anxiety acting up on these days. I feel good when I go to office as I am surrounded by people.

    I feel like I dont like my own company or staying alone because of this anxiety.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #443716
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    Thanks for your help Anita! I eat mostly low fod map diet except garlic and onions. They are part of my indian curries 🙁
    Like i said I cook food everyday at home.
    I understand the gut and brain connection. I have been in survival mode from 2018 to 2022.I was stuck in never ending loop of anxiety every second of my life. That has really impacted my gut. I started feeling bit better since 2023 with the help of my therapist. I still get anxious like when my friend ignored me , i have a presentation, social anxiety but I feel like I am in better place now. Just feeling bit depressed this eek about my ibs as its really impacting my life.
    Would you mind sharing your IBS healing journey ? You dont have to if dont want to.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #443685
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    Oh yeah. I have IBS too. I never had any digestive issues in India.
    Once we moved to US in 2015. Thats when it started. I never used laxatives as it never impacted my life. I didnt have anxiety when we moved here, so I dont know why it started.

    For me it used to be IBS-C and it never effected my life until 2020.My anxiety became worst at that time. I dont know what has changed. Now i have a combination of both ibs c and d for the past couple of years.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #443683
    Zenith
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    Thank you for your kind and uplifting words Anita!

    Did anxiety ever give you gut issues? We eat out only once in a week. I cook food everyday at home but I still have the digestive issues. For the past two years I feel like I am overeating and hard to control my cravings. I dont even exercise.

    I come to office everyday. I go home then cook food. Eat, sleep and repeat.

    I hate eating healthy and exercising.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #443680
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    He will give the work which i find interesting and fun.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #443679
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    Hey Anita, How are you doing ? At first, it felt like I am so easy to convince. I cant stand by my own opinion. He did give reassurance that he will only give me thats interesting. I am seeing that in his actions right now.

    I am gong through some health issues right now. This anxiety has really wrecked my gut. It gave me digestive issues and its getting worse. It has become worst for the past two years. I want to eat healthy but its getting hard to control my cravings especially the week before my periods. I feel lost. I have my period next week and I am feeling so depressed about it.

    I feel so selfish because I text you only when I need something 🙁 I am even delaying my replies now a days. I am trying to handle my emotions on my own. But this health issue is really making me feel depressed.

    I feel like I am in a better place now but then I have to battle this issue,. It sucks.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #443241
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    Lol.. I was thinking about something else for the past two weeks. There was an internal job position opened in our company. I thought about it for a week non stop. I wanted to apply but i was so anxious about change. Finally I made the decision to apply for it last Monday then I told my manager about it on Tuesday. My manager talked me out of it. I told him about my concerns and he reassured that I will get to work on something that makes me happy. I changed my mind and didnt want to apply for that internal job.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #443145
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    Hey Anita,Thanks for checking on me.I am good.How are you ?I was thiking about you today.I am very busy with my work now a days. I did hear/see about the hindu festival.Some things triggered me when I saw them online.But i was able to cope up.I didnt hear much about stampede.I saw videos like people polluting the river, men taking pics of women when taking dip in the river and there was some procesession of sadhus that scared me when i saw them.I was like why do people want to go when there are no proper facilities.Some people follow religion blindly i guess.Religion is a very big deal in India. Who am I judge to them so I just let it go.My ocd got triggered that i was judging the hindu religion so i dont bother about it much.Like i said, I was able to cope up.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #441592
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    I keep telling myself all these things but still the anxiety gets the best out me 🙁

    in reply to: Passing clouds #441542
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    On top of that my little keeps telling me that the neighbors daughter has more friends.I do have three friends and even planned a play date fduring holidays but she is never happy.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #441541
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    Thanks for listening to my rants Anita! I have veen comparing myself alot to others lately.My teammate whom i worked with on sql has left the team because hse was not happy with the work. She left after two years working in our company.Here I am stuck at the same company. I feel like i have no growth here since 2023.I always complain to my husband about this.Yet i didnt make any efforts since august 2023 to move out.Giving interviews is hard for me because of my social anxiety.On the hand the girl who is 10 younger than me left when she wanted.Here i am stuck in the same shit for the past one and half year. The other thing is my neighbor has lot of friends now. We have indian cultural event and we both are performing a dance together. Now i meet her often as I have to practice.I see that she is always busy with her new group either they make plans or she makes plans for meeting them.I feel so jealous that she whole lot of friends.I feel bad for feeling this way.They all belong to the same caste. It looks like they formed the group based on the caste.I remember dealing with people with same mind set when i was graduating in india.Casteism is still a huge thing in a india.I had a friend who formed a group based on the caste and i used to be part of it.I used to feel left sometimes because they were close as they belong to same caste.I know the same thing would happen even if i join that group.Its just like race in us. I never felt that racism in the team that I am working right now.I feel people here are more sensitive to such issues.In india its a common thing nobody thinks its wrong.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #441535
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    My boss is a good person. I would never deny that. He talks about mental health, work life balance and spending more time with family blah blah. As a manager he sucks. During the previous project he used to do the work all by himself instead delegating the tasks to the teammates. My teammate and I used to get frustrated sitting idle. when i asked for work at that time he told me that he didnt want to set me up for failure. when I asked him for this new role he told me the same thing. Sorry I am ranting again. Today he told me that they are the starting the interview process for the role. It triggered me again.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #441269
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    Ypu put it so well Anita!I always felt that he doesnt trust me.Like you said, he projects his fears on me.I am done trusting him and I lost the trust.Its just the rejection hurts me.I have to acvept the fact and move on.Even when I am working on something he keeps me telling me how to do it.I hate the fact.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #441266
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    Yes. But my boss was unfair to me for the second time.I should probably move on to some other company.I cant work on something that is not fulfilling to me.I dont why I feel so hurt and anxious about this whole situation.He always underestimates my technical skills.Even my other teammate told me the same thing.He doesnt give work to her as well.Once she got frustated and angry with my boss.He takes the whole responsibility on his shoulders.

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