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ZenityParticipantDear vibrant_me,
It is shocking to realise that your brain can do such things :)). I am sabotaging myself without knowing, if I don’t learn to love or to be loved I will end up alone. Women who grew up only child and with one parent are more likely to be unable to maintain long relationships. Yesterday I was going out of my mind, today I feel much more confident that I finally found the problem and I also have a solution, counselling .
Did you went to a psychologist? Did it had any good results on you?
Thank you for your support!
ZenityParticipantDear Anita,
You are right when it comes to trusting him, I think deep down that every man lies at some point. I want to be happy with the man that i will one day marry and it is clear that I need counselling which i will attend next week. And I did found some more info while speaking with you, the fact that I do project a father figure into him and the fact that I might be afraid of love 🙂
And I also feel so much better today then yesterday, thanks to you guys who have helped me to understand that after all I am still a normal woman, I just need some help to understand me better.
I will come back with feedback regarding this. 🙂 I already feel so much confidante and relaxed and the stomach pain is gone!!
Thank you Anita, it is wonderful to have someone to talk to in this kind of situation.
ZenityParticipantDear Anita,
My mother tried not to speak bad about him but i had eyes and my opinion was formed before she said anything. Once i grew older she was able to speak more about him and what she told me was nothing new. Unfortunately, it is mt father that is a selfish man that didn’t care much about me growing up. I just realised that i had the same problem with my ex partner but in that case it was easy to leave him because i did not have strong feelings. But now i have found someone special and i am afraid that i will end this relationship because of this unknown fear.
ZenityParticipantDear Anita,
I am disappointed of my father and sometimes when i rememberscenes of them fighting makes me feel a bit angry. As to the men in my life i think that i have treated some of them not really nice, don’t know if its anger or because i didn’t consider them good enough. It is clear to me now that his absence has somehow affected the relationship with the men in my life. Do you think that my fear has something to do with being commited to a man?
ZenityParticipantDear Anita,
The relationship between my parents was troubleling before he left. I felt more like a release that he did, because of what he put my mother through. My heart is broken now that i have realised how important a father is, having 2 parents in your life. Makes me question if this has altered the way i act with my partners. Like, the fear of commitment, or the incapability of being vulnerable and to love someone. What do you think? Can i love someone trully?
ZenityParticipantHi,
Thank you so much for you care! I am a bit out of my mind because i don’t understand anymore if i love or not or it’s just a fear.
This started after a ugly fight (my fault) when he questioned if i really treat this relationship serious or not. I started to ask myself what this supposed to mean. Of course, i have had realtionships before him but none so meaningfull.
Now i have to understand why and of what am i afraid so that when i think of him, i already feel fear. It feels like i have been tricked him and me. Also, i beliv that i might put some pressure on me to decide wbwh i want from this relationship. Is it possible that the very thought of serious relationship scares me? Is it something to do with my father? Also, why i feel the need now of extra space?
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