Dear Anita,

I avoid evaluating people, even myself. Recognizing is something different.

When I see someone respond to a volatile or turbulent happening with equanimity and calm, my first thought is probably, ‘That person seems to exhibit emotional mastery.’

Of course this could be off. They might be numb with fear.

If I have an opportunity to experience that person over time, in a variety of stressful circumstances, and they continue to respond in an attractive, mature way my interest will be piqued. I will probably talk with them to understand from where their calmness arises.

Best,

Gary