Dear loveleebabe:

If it is still possible to call that old friend and stay with that friend for a while, then I would pack my stuff and leave ASAP. Otherwise, pack your stuff and move to a shelter for abused spouses- since you definitely fit the abused part. Plan O stands for the Only Plan that is reasonable when you are abused, and that is to remove yourself from the home where you are abused or to remove the abuser from the home.

There is no “tricky situation” here. It is an abusive situation. And you are quite used to being abused, as so many people are, (as I have been), and so you are thinking there is a way to … endure it better, to not feel as much pain over it. Is that so?

anita