No, not so much that. I work in a male dominated environment, and grew up with older brothers. I know men are just as people like us girls and in truth often need a little bit more support because of the pressure society puts on them. We have a little man ourselves, a 14-month old bundle of energy. Perhaps that’s a part of it, I mean I had post natal depression and I got the help I needed to deal with it, but could it be that he has some lingering issues of his own??

He is just exhausted, yet fully able to get sleep every night while I deal with baby. He’s work is busy but no more than usual, and despite me pretty much running the household, looking after baby and working part time, the smallest requests I make of him seem to cripple him.

An example, last night I asked him to prepare two bottles for baby’s daycare today while I bathed baby and got him ready for bed. Husband went into full meltdown because at first he couldn’t find bottles so came and asked me where there were, when I responded that they might need to be washed, he started cursing and thumping things in the kitchen.

Another example, on Friday I asked him if he could please fold the laundry while he watched the football on tv while I made dinner. Again this was met with cursing and exasperation.

After I’d had a difficult day, my dad just getting some medical tests results that weren’t great, dealing with a sick bubba and a massive project at work, I asked him for a hug and to tell me that everything would be ok, and he said he was trying to be positive but that I asked for too much.

I’m now feeling like I can’t ask him for support or help which makes me think that he’s struggling in himself.