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He is 45, I’m 36.
We got to know each other at rowing for a year before we started dating then 2 years later we were married and have been married for 3 years.
He handled the PND well, I think, but struggled if I asked him to be my cheerleader. If I had a bad day and felt the need to vent, he couldn’t just tell me that it would be ok and that I was doing a good job, which is all I really needed and asked for, instead he would get overwhelmed. So I generally try to be my own cheerleader but maybe once a month I’ll actually tell him I’m having a tough day and ask for support and he has been able to cope with that.
He’s been struggling a lot more recently, over the past few weeks maybe. Getting forgetful, not able to handle the tasks he usually can manage and has had some health issues of his own that he had to go to the doctor about.
He’s a bit of an emotional black hole. Getting him to talk about his feelings is near impossible and he’s always said that he shows me he loves me rather than tell me, but lately he hasn’t been showing much of anything.
With our son he’s up and down. He’s not the most patient person and gets easily frustrated and will raise his voice if our son is resisting a nappy change for example. I think he struggles with the daily grind like we all do with a young child, but he also has trouble in seeing the magic and embracing the chaos.