Dear hopeful33:

In your first paragraph and later in the last two posts you referred to your ex as a head person and you, a heart person. I strongly disagree: he is a heart person, not a head person. It was not his love (heart) for you against the logic (head) presented to him by his family and “therapist”- it was his love for you that benefited him (heart) against his emotional attachment to his family which harms him (heart).

If he was a head person he would have chosen the emotional attachment that benefits him, not that which harms him. On the outside, maybe, it would seem like he is leading a normal life, and in a sense, he is, as arranged marriages are normal and going through the motions like automations is .. not abnormal.

anita