First off, big virtual hug across the interwebs! It’s not easy letting go of someone you care about.

Is it possible she’ll come back? Sure, anything is possible. My parents got back together after a breakup and have been married for 35+ years. That being said, it is also possible they won’t return. Back when I was in college, my first love broke up with me unexpectedly. As cried buckets of tears, I wailed to my roommate, “will we get back together?” She gently replied something I’ll never forget, “I don’t know…but listen, even if that’s what you want, you have to live your life like you *won’t*. That way, if you don’t reunite, then you’ve gotten a head start on the healing process…and if you do get back together, then it will be a delightful surprise!” I still to this day think there’s a lot of truth in that advice.

I never got back together with that fella, but I did heal and went on to have other loving relationships.

In answer to your final question, “How do you truly let go if you are hoping they will come back?” in my opinion is you can’t. And you know what? That’s OK! As you work through the grieving process your grip on those ties that bind your heart to her will get looser and eventually you’ll let go.

Best of luck to you! Practice great self care and be kind to yourself.