Hi pixie,

I know several couples who live apart.

Seriously ~ take the job in the other town with or without him. Have a (very) small apartment/house while he keeps the one you’re at or sells it. And you guys can visit each other.

If he throws a fit over you moving or wants to move with you, set a separate place up for a one year lease and tell him you just want to see if the job works out.

You both will either feel more freedom and happiness living your own lives in a periodic Marriage Sabbatical…

…and/or it will be easier for you to have the conversation and for him to live without you when he realizes that he can.

Blessings,

Inky