Dear Tessa:

We are social animals. We need people, like herd animals, we feel safer when connected to another or others.

I like and need alone times often enough. Do you? If you enjoy your privacy at times, then you have two needs: connection to another and alone time.

You feel sad because you are losing your roommate/ best friend. You feel scared because you are afraid of the coming sadness and it growing into a depression or such.

Keep communicating with your best friend and with others. Keep posting here and I will reply to you every time you post. Just like your attachment to your boyfriend transferred to your soon-to-be roommate, part of your attachment to her can be transferred to another person/ other people.

Hope you feel better and keep posting.

anita