Hi Again,

I agree with the wife’s point of view. Although I never initiated contact after they were married or engaged. We were still FB Friends though. I totally get that.

And no, if computers never existed I would never have communicated with him, but he did call me once when we were out of school and most people were computer-less. He would contact me (I suspect) because he felt nostalgic or he would be “fishing” (I was always married!). Conversely, I would not have called/mailed him (in a computer-less world) because I was married with children and/or I was still guarding my heart if single.

If the wife tweaked his settings, I would feel less miffed (and feel bad for him). But if he did it, yes, I am miffed. Like, get over yourself buddy!