Hi marie,

You didn’t finish uni? Is that right? Not wise. It is a cliché, but True Love Can Wait.

Also, If Something Is Too Good To Be True, etc.

He gets to self destruct and act inappropriately. Then when you call him out on it he yells that you are just like his family (The people that have always loved him that are practicing Tough Love because they don’t know what else to do). And you justify this because we all have demons (but some are bigger than others, yes?).

Tell him that you are calling him out on things BECAUSE you love him. If he wants to dump you one day to find an enabler, great. But it’s not true love.

I think you should finish school, he should get therapy and conquer his addictions, then in a few years revisit each other as older, wiser people.

I’m being a little tough because I’ve been there. I had dumped someone who sounds very similar to your BF. Sometimes people need “little hurts” in their life to clean up their act (addiction, behavior, etc.)

Best,

Inky

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