Hi everyone,

Just wanted to update you all on the situation. Sorry it took me a while to post back – there was a lot of back and forth, and I wanted to wait until things resolved somewhat. I started out with Eris’ suggestions and figured that I would see how he reacted to that first, i.e. “well, in my experience, what I think made me a stronger person….” etc. He reacted well to that and kept asking me more questions, so eventually I segwayed into Anita’s suggestions. I explained that I have been concerned about the way he was being treated and that he seemed to feel very hurt and stressed and burnt out, and that this is not how a healthy relationship should feel. He also appreciated that a lot. He agreed that he felt that he was being used and degraded. He eventually confronted his sister about it and she freaked out. She wouldn’t talk to him for a week. Then she apologized a week later and acted really sweet for a few days. Then she started acting crazy again – making fun of him, cursing out his Dad and other family members, etc. He finally said that he had had enough and needed a break, and she told him to “have a nice life.” He was pretty upset for a while because he finally had a chance to know his sister, and it ended up being a bad experience, but he is ok now. He said that, without a doubt, he was only able to get through it because of me being there for him. Thank you for all of your help!