Hi Anita.

I had the new guy that I am interested in over last night. We met just a week ago but this is our third time hanging out, so it seems that there is a mutual desire to keep seeing each other and hanging out. I was texting my friend this morning and she asked how it went, so I told her.

Up until this guy, I had been seeing multiple guys but no one really “fit the bill” for me. I felt so guilty playing the field! My friends assured me I was single and not exclusive with anyone. Well, I briefly told my friend I feel like that’s happening to me with my new guy but I told her that I’m probably just being paranoid. Just wondering if “karma will come to get me” sort of thing. I also told her how while I was showing my guy something on his phone, a text popped up from a girl. Because I’m very interested in this guy, yes I did get a little anxious and that is what sort of sparked this whole thought process. That he’s playing the field too. Which is 100% fair! I kind of stopped talking to all the other guys once I met this one this past week, but I still can understand if he hasn’t cut off contact with any other girls yet. Like I said, we aren’t exclusive and have only been seeing each other a week. She can also totally be a friend. Do you see my point? My mind gets very obsessive. Ahh.

Regardless, I mentioned all of this to my friend. Normal girlfriend chit chat stuff about our crushes. That was when she told me I’m overthinking this and being too intense. It’s not that I don’t get her point, because she is right. But it’s just kind of the way she phrased it all. This will happen with much smaller things, though. I am a very analytical person, and I don’t think she likes being that way or thinking far into things. Trust me, I wish I wasn’t this way either but I can’t help it!

I do have a tendency (with all the other guys I was seeing) to think that they’re great at first and then am like “wait, never mind” once the thrill wears off. So I think she’s just exhausted with all my ups and downs. Maybe I am a loon, who knows.