Dear Butterfly:

This is how I see your situation, and let me know if I am correct: one reason why it is so difficult for you to let go of this man is that you are still hoping, part of you is waiting for him and hoping.

The title of your thread is “emotional rollercoaster and needing closure”- the thing is, if this relationship was a rollercoaster in a theme park, you are still hanging around the theme park, waiting for the rollercoaster to be functioning again so you can get on it.

You want to tell him how much he hurt you, I believe, because you are still hoping that if you do tell him, that he will care and make it all better: change and be there for you consistently and reliably.

The closure you need is you closing the door on your own hope, no longer hoping and waiting for him.

anita