I pay for everything because I make 3 times what he does. I started paying for all, when he lost his job years ago. Then, he has had several jobs that pay about 40% of what I make. He pays tuition for college. I sort of fell into that situation. He does save money well, but it is all under his control. On the surface, he acts like we are equal partners, ( with my money), but then holds onto his own, unless he feels like spending it (cruises?). We have had separate accounts since day one. Breathe and pray, that is all I can do today.