Dear cherryblossom:

I suppose you committed no violation by going to HR. It is similar perhaps, in principle to the following example: I am driving a car within the speed limit but boom! I crashed into a car in front of me. My car is destroyed and my arm broken. A police officer takes my version of the accident. I say: I did nothing wrong! I committed no violation! I drove within the speed limit!”

So the police officer asks: yes, but did you notice you were getting too close to the car driving in front of you?

“no, I didn’t have to because I was driving the speed limit!”

As we negotiate our way through life, in personal and professional life, we better see the whole picture, explore different angles, not just one.

I too hope for a fresh new beginning for you. Remember it is not only the professional competency that counts, but making the professional interactions with others work for you and not against you.

anita