I have just one question for you healed man.
When you’re driving down the road do you make an effort to drive close to the car that is tailgating others or is speeding? So why apply that same concept to your emotional well being?

One thing I would suggest would be going out and doing something that scares you (ie facing a phobia, stepping out of your comfort zone). My suggestion would be to join either a men’s support group or a public speaking club where you can improve your communication and learn to properly argue/debate.
All the best to you healed man
Thank you and take care
-AP85