Hi, I’m just reading the blogs on here and was immediately struck by your situation .

I think answering your question might help me too
I would like to say that if this is working for you and you are both happy carry on but there is something controlling about this situation
He says YOU have come this far with the work , but what has he done ? He wants to live in the moment what about you ?
sex and love are two different things , love isn’t just about meals , errands it’s about nurturing your needs and your wants too
You really need to start loving yourself more, why its so hard giving up this relationship ? Write things down what if he wasn’t here any more , you’d have to Manage -imagine that mindset now
I understand where you are coming from, my husband left me and I’ve done exactly the same thing .
I’m lonely and I miss affection as it makes feel loved , but we are loved by family and friends , if my children or mum treated me like this , I wouldn’t put up,with it so why do we by ex partners ? I dont know
Good luck my friend , love shouldn’t be this much trouble