Hi ajack379

I can feel your pain. I’ve gone through a similar process recently where I was in a relationship that forced me to confront my shadow sides (feeling unloved, thinking I’m not good enough, not lovable, etc). A lot of these beliefs came from my childhood. But at some point these beliefs sabotage us, and it looks like that’s exactly where you are right now.
That’s good. Your intuition is telling you (and has told you for a long time) that these old beliefs are not yours, but somebody elses. You are not broken because of them. I believe we have to deal with these issues because they are life lessons that will make us stronger once we have faced these fears, and then let them go, realizing they no longer control us.
Your girlfriend sounds like a caring, compassionate person. I do understand that she wants to spend more time with you. She loves you, that’s why. But maybe you need more time to deal with your fears. Maybe you could suggest to her that

a) You don’t want her to move in just yet because you need to deal with your fears
b) You will give yourself 6 months, maybe a year, to deal with these issues, and, if you’re still together, tell her you want her to move in with you then
c) Tell her you love her, and you want her to help you and support you with this.

From personal experience I can tell you that facing those fears is the only way to move on. They are not you, they are not who you are, so don’t identify with them. They are just energies, and you have the capability and strength to face them and see the lessons they are trying to teach you.

All the best on your path.

Gunter
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