Dear XenopusTex:

Regarding the second woman, I remember very well that you didn’t ask her for her cell phone number and then, you were very, very busy at work. You didn’t contact her for a long time. So she may not have gotten involved with the other man because she thought he was a better man but because he was AVAILABLE. You stated yourself that you are busier than you would like because other people take personal time and you fill in for them, and that he was one of those people!

Your second paragraph above is about how she could interpret you being late to the date with her (before you told her of the reason when you did show up)- your late arrival in combination with not asking for her phone number and not trying to contact her day after day and week after week (was it?) would translate to me a lack of motivation and/ or availability. Either lack of motivation or availability means the same thing- no hope there.

As to the rest of your last post, none of it changes my points above, in this very post to you. There is no Mr. justice-in-the-sky who will give you relationship points for being overly busy and for having an unpredictable schedule or for other people not doing their share of work. No credit. Fact is: you are unavailable for a relationship, that is all that matters in regard to you not having a relationship.

anita